Obviously she has no clue as to how men work. She feels lots of pressure to meet your needs for affirming love to you through sex. This IS THE WAY IT WORKS. She sounds like many LD women, I think they se us HD men as bottomless pits of need for sex and affirmation. We are not bottomless, it's just that what we find to be normal amounts of sex, affection, kissing, cuddling, etc.., they find to be unbelievably HUGE amounts. For example, you may want sex everyday (not unusual for HD) while she NEVER wants sex. So for her, compromise is to have sex once a month maybe. Now to her, she is REALLY putting out, but to us HD, she is not even trying. LD women really have no clue as to how much sex us HD guys REALLY need. So now she feels unbelievable pressure to be a way that she does not feel she can be. So to back the pressure off, she wants you to NOT want sex. THAT IS IMPOSSIBLE. You are FORCED to want sex by testosterone. There is absolutly nothing you can do to stop your desire for sex, except of course to get rejected so many times by your wife as to no longer want her. Funny, she wants you to NOT desire sex with her, which if and when that occurs, means that you will no longer LOVE her. NOTE: TO ALL YOU LD WOMAN OUT THERE, IF YOUR HD HUSBAND HAS STOPPED WANTING SEX FROM YOU, GOOD CHANCE HE IS CLOSE TO BEING A WAH! HD men never stop wanting sex, they stop wanting the PERSON that was supposed to be their lover.
Hairdog, has your wife always been LD/ND, or did she pull the old bait and switch routine? Has she ever been assaulted? How was her childhood, did she grow up in a loving, touching family? I have been reading where women that grow up in dysfunctional families tend to make LOUSY wives. If they don't have lovinf fathers at home, they tend to not know how to love their husbands. I am beginning to believe that since many woman do not have testosterone to DRIVE their sexual being, that they literally need to LEARN from the example of their mothers and fathers realtionship to actually know how to carry on a great relationship with their husbands. Dr. Laura just came out with her new book that describes PERFECTLY what is required to have a successful relationship with a NORMAL HD man. Give him great sex and affirmation, and he will literally DIE for you! Incredible simple rules for a great marriage, and yet Dr. Laura is totally amazed at how girls have been raised for the last 40 years and their mothers are NOT teaching their daughters this.
Hairdog, if your wife was giving you great frequent sex and affirmation, is there anything else you would need to have a fulfilling life? I will bet not much. It all seems so simple, and yet this probably seems like an IMPOSSIBLE task for your wife. What she wants is a husband that is "Confident" in his marriage, (my wife says this). She wants a man that KNOWS he is loved, so in effect she does not have to SHOW he is loved. She clearly wants you to receive love in the way that she likes to GIVE love, which is obviously not physical touch. What is the answer, beats me. LD women have such a different perspective on marriage! I really think that a great marriage with a LD wife is really not possible, they can never really be the wife that us HD guys need. You may be able to develop a TOLERABLE marriage, but a great marriage, I doubt it. I have done searches on the internet for "Great Marriages" and almost all the websites that talk about "Great Marriages" will tell you that a common denominator of "Great marriages" is that these couples have Great, FREQUENT, sex. That Sex is NOT an issue in these marriages. Basically, these marriages are between a HD guy and a women that is either HD, or knows how to FAKE being HD. Can a ND women ever be able to get to this level, I sincerely doubt it. I would love to see just ONE example of a ND women that became HD again. JUST ONE FREAKIN EXAMPLE!!
Now that I have said all this, I still have not given up, it is up to me to turn over every single rock looking for a solution. But eventually, we all run out of rocks to look under. Then we have to make the horrible decision. Is it worse to LIVE with a ND woman, or is it WORSE to move on? What a terrible decision us HD guys always seem to have to face.
Dr. Laura ha said it many times on her show, women that do not like sex or affection, are really pretty much hopeless. Us guys are to stay in the marriage until the children leave home, and then we have a tough decision to make. She wants to have a solution to this problem, but she has none! It's no wonder the 75% of all marriages are failing! There is an epedemic of women with NO DESIRE!
