One giant leap forward! - Part 3

[T1000]

T, thanks for clarifying in your responses to my post.

I want to respond to this:

Do you think she could be doing this just to get control again?

Who cares? Sorry for the bluntness but really, If you are in control of you it doesn't matter. And that's why sex is dangerous territory for you right now because you're in a vulnerable spot, your marriage is in a vulnerable spot, you aren't in control of you.

As I said before, have sex, don't have sex, have dinner, don't have dinner, just remember it's a choice you're making. All choices have consequences, so make that choice fully accepting the consequences, positive or negative.

W emailed me about a few things and said she couldn't afford the nursery bill so she will need the £** she was going to give towards the MC appointment.

My first reaction (in my head) was anger that she was maybe backing out of it.
I thought of all sorts of replies ranging from complaining to it wasn't fair blah blah blah.

I sat and thought about it for a while.
She may or may not be able to afford it. She might be backing out.
I can't control any of that.
Should I post on here asking what to say, what to do?

I went back to work and pondered for a bit:
She said she was willing to go, I want to go, I can at least make the first appointment happen even if it is hard to afford.
That is what I want so that is what I'm going to do.
If I struggle financially it was my choice to go ahead and that's my problem.

I told her I would cover this one and go from there.
It now arranged and we will either get there or we won't.