So community I need help. What do I do if I want to re initiate contact? I can't show any progress made or even begin to open up any discussion without communication. I know she is very stubborn and the way we left things wasn't good. I also know I said that I didn't want to be friends and that I wanted to try again as a married couple.
I've learned so much and there is so much I want to share. I want to discuss the R but I know that shouldn't happen. What about just opening a dialog? I know that would look weak but I don't care. I really would like to see if we can move beyond this and rediscover each other. I know right now that is very unlikely, but I also know without communication it won't happen.
I need every ones help. We haven't spoke to each other at all in about 3 months.
TLW, I've been there. Hell, I'm still pretty much right there. You've got to have patience. That's why the GAL is so important, it lets you take the focus off your spouse and your relationship, and focus on yourself.
I went for over 5 months with no contact with my W, but she eventually initiated contact at a point when I least expected it. It is a very gradual process, and there's no guarantee that I'll end up where I want to be, or that it will be the same for you. But I will guarantee that if you pressure her, you will not end up where you want to be.
