So last night H texted and asked if I could get the plans I had for next weekend back (as a refresher: next weekend is supposed to be his custodial weekend with D, but he threw a big fit because he's supposed to go to a bachelor party. I agreed to switch weekends with him, so I would have her next weekend and he would have her this coming weekend. Only problem was he could only have her this coming Friday vs Friday and Sat as he's going to a wedding with the woman he's having an EA with). Anyway, I told him possibly, I could check. He then tells me he has something else he can do this Friday and wonders if I can just have her this weekend and he'll have her next as he can't afford the bachelor party anyway (he told me before he already paid, actually that was his strongest arguement, and I realllly want to call him out on it, but whatever). I told him I really needed him to have her this Friday as we had agreed on the switch some time ago and I'm now going to a wedding of my own. I did offer to split this weekend and next with him though so he could have his fair share of time with D now that his plans had changed (i/e he would have her this Friday and I would have her Sat, then next weekend I would have her Friday and he would have her Sat). This would also allow me to keep the plans I formerly cancelled. To that he said forget it, that he was either watching her this Friday or next weekend, not one day out of each. That he'll just go to the party next weekend vs have her. Super frustrating as he's constantly doing this to D. Putting himself above her and not making time for her. And again asking me to change all my plans to accomodate, even though I did in the first place. So this has me all irritated again. BUT rather than say anything to him, here I am Now for the questions:
1) Is there any point in mentioning that I feel he's being unfair and selfish with constantly asking me to switch plans for his weekends? And, that it hurts me that he's making little effort to see D? As a mom, his attitude is killing me. My sweet girl deserves to be his first priority, not his last.
2) Is there any point in telling him I feel hurt and disrespected by him taking this girl to a mutual friend's wedding?
3) Our wedding anniversary is in a week. Do I do anything to acknowledge it?
Me: 26 H: 28 T:8 M:5 D:2 BD:4/1/13 Separated 6/6/13 Filed separation 6/21/13 Waiting for D papers to be served, H says filed
Now for the questions: