Need help detaching

[lost_hope]

Journaling my self improvement measures to undertake after baby (based on his complaints and/or introspection).

1. Lose baby weight and get in shape. I was a size 0 before pregnancy and have only gained about 22 pound so far and all in belly and boobs, so this should be easy. What I do anticipate however is that I will be flabby. In addition since I'm naturally skinny I never exercise (beyond the occasional random dance class). Once I recover from c section I'm going to incorporate fitness into my routine at least 5 times a week, mostly from home (have to be realistic with new baby) and occasional Pilates and dance classes outside the home (which I can use as part of my new mom approved GAL).

2. Focus more on hair and makeup. Apparently he was bothered by the fact that I don't wear makeup daily (never was a problem before in fact he used to tell me I don't need it) and pointed out that at 34 I'm no spring chicken. He didnt complain about hair but I've taken to buns and ponytais lately. After baby us born i will make it a point to do both daily, even if that means I have to wake up earlier than I want. I also may try new style and colour, though im very conservative so it wont ever be too drastic (brown instead of black, loose waves instead of stick straight). Since I'm not a morning person ill have to make sure I'm going to sleep earlier at night (once baby sleeps through the night of course).

3. Deal with my anxiety. I'm going to go to IC as soon as I can and also start on meds to help as needed.

4. Be more tidy around the house. Though this is not something I feel I should focus on (being the one who has always earned more / always worked) its important to him. I will be more conscientious about it but also will hire a cleaning lady to assist me in the much bigger Space were moving into.

5. I will try to be more patient with others and avoid high stress situations (interacting with customer service reps for instance).

Thoughts? Are these too superficial?