One giant leap forward! - Part 3

[T1000]

MC, to me, once we have been, is her working on the R.

I wasn't going to bring this up, but you've mentioned it several times. Anyone can go to one session. A lot of WAW's agree to go to MC, and when she gets there she announces to the H she wants a A. Then, that ends the sessions.

I am not saying she will do the same thing. I just wanted to show you how one session doesn't mean she's working on the M. What I don't understand is why you think her attending one session is her working on the R. I think you are just trying to give yourself a date for sex, and you picked one trip to the MC. So, if you have sex with her that night, and later she informs you she won't be going back to C, (b/c she doesn't like him, she doesn't want to spend the money, she thinks you two are working things out, or whatever excuse she gives), then what will you do? You'll be right back where you've always been.

I'm not going to argue about it. But you say you are going to a solution based MC, and I doubt he can give you and/or your W all the solutions in one session. Personally, I think you would be just as well off to use the money toward Retroville and go ahead and be screwing your brains out........rather than see you set this one-time visit to MC as some sort of measuring stick of progress and then hit the sack. That's what you want to do anyway, start having sex again. I had just hoped you had learned enough from the last go around that you would make her truly work...before you were convinced she was sincere about the R.


There is a bit difference between making love and having sex.

One MC appointment doesn't mean it's fixed, I know that.
I do believe that if she goes and is responsive to the session that she is working on the R.
Do you think she could be doing this just to get control again? It's an expensive way for her to do that.

I'm not saying that the night after the session we will have sex. That is nearly impossible anyway because I will be taking the kids with me to my house afterwards.

Do you believe that sex too early will derail the process and definitely not help at all?

I feel that if I do withhold just to prove a point I will come across as petty. Sounds daft saying it but it does. It's like I'm lording control over her.

Putting sex aside for a second do you also think this applies to other things, like having dinner together, spending time talking?