Thanks planet. Unfortunately I've been in this sitch for a long time...I recognize its not working. Time to do something different. Last resort? Maybe and I'm ok if it goes to D or R. I'm not afraid of D anymore. I've regain self sufficiency and my confidence. IMO, you need to stand up for yourself, you need to respect yourself and protect yourself and if that means protecting yourself by means of D then so be it.

The thing is an EA/PA is a major road block to R, the sitch will not improve if your W is in an A. And it is my value not to stay in an open M. I will save my M but not at all cost especially if an A is ongoing. Our WAS' need to sense some kind of loss and perhaps that will get them out of the fog. And I do realize that it might not happen that way. So this is my last resort, it could end in D and that's fine with me and will accept it.

This is how I'm respecting myself and if my W can't respect that then it is her loss.

Good luck to you planet.

Newman

me40; W43
M18; T~20
D18; S13 & S3
bomb 5/9/11
EA busted 4/30/12; 9/4/12; 4/29/13; 6/10/13 same OM

Separated 4/1/14

"Even a flicker of light will shine through darkness-12/25/2012"....better days ahead.