OK, I didn’t wait a full 48 hours. I called my W just before lunch and said I was going to take her out. I bought two sandwiches and I went to her office and drove over to the beach (10 minutes away). We sat on a large log and ate our sandwiches and talked about our girls and summer camp. When we were done, I told her, “When I was away on vacation with the girls you had an affair with your surf instructor.” She looked at me, denied it, and wanted to know why I thought that. I wasn’t going there -- I didn’t want to argue evidence. I then told her this was her opportunity to tell the truth. She didn’t. Then I said that I wanted her to move out that night. Then about 5 minutes of conversation followed of her saying it is not a good time, what about the girls? Can’t we wait until her mother leaves (she’s visiting us). My reply was that it would never be a good time to break up the family. She denied it to the end. We then both went back to work.
The denials make me crazy, but I remember during BD with the EA she denied everything until I put the proof under her nose. Back at my office I looked again at everything and it all points to an affair. I’m pretty certain she did. Also, she agreed rather readily to move out.
At 4:00 I took my girls to the library and then out to dinner. My W came and packed her bags while we were gone. I’m not sure where she is going. At 7:00 when I returned she was gone. My MIL asked me what happened? I asked, didn’t my W tell you? No. Finally after being pestered by MIL, I told her. I guess my W was too ashamed to tell her mother. I didn’t want to tell my MIL, but she is living here and now her daughter is gone.
My W left me a note as follows: “I cannot fit everything I own into the car, when I have a place I’ll let you know, in case you care. Do not make any sudden decisions. I do love you – W”
My intent going forward is to be dim. I’ll discuss the girls and finances and house business with her. I will also be cordial. Tomorrow we will sit down with the girls and explain that Mommy is moving out. I’m not sure what to say?
Oddly, today I hardly teared up. Dinner at a sushi restaurant with my 3 girls was enjoyable. They love going out to eat.
