Dropping the Rope

[littleGTO]

Thanks again, ruby, dmr, newman, AS & PS, for posting here!

I always look forward to hearing from my DBing friends!

Can't wait to meet some of you in person in Boston on Friday!! Wa-hoo!!!

ruby, what time- u & me??? Same place???

Today-
Went to see another lawyer this morning to get one last viewpoint on some very specific questions regarding the kids and the house situation. L says I will only have to give up one night during the week and every other weekend.

He also said I should be able to stay i the house w the kids and NOT split equity until at least the youngest graduates from h.s. but possibly longer (college).

I did not retain a lawyer yet--still just getting "free consulting advice."

But, tomorrow H & I are meeting w a mediator (another free consultation) then on Thurs are meeting w a second mediator (to get a comparison to see who is a better fit).

H & I talked today for about an hour (my initiation) & we are NOT on same page about kids. He wants them 3/7 days a week; I want them the whole school week & split weekends. But, I do want the kids to see their dad during the week- just not sleep overnight at his place--don't see this in their best interest.

Conversation was difficult, as we both heard each other but didn't agree. Neither of us budged.

We did agree we didn't like the idea of spending all our money on lawyers to make the decisions for us--that ultimately we both will need to compromise, so why not at least try to work it out through mediation.

We'll see. I reiterated that I still did not want this for our family and that I was sad for us & our family. We are broken, not just bent. So, I cried when I left to go see my C...the whole way there.