Little update:

SIL manages restaurant/bar where I work in summer (slinging beer...love it!! smile )

A specific day she was wondering if H could come and help (2 weeks) I said you should text him now to ask. She said why? I said well, so he has time. (I know he spends every second weekend with new interest...not yet GF)

SIL says all he does is post about his food and activities and camping, sailing etc. What he needs to do is grow up!

She looks at me for validation...all I say is everyone gets there at their own pace...

I kind of stuttered because I didn't want to say "Ya! no kidding" how about your kids etc?

Now SIL and H are very very close siblings, so it was interesting to see how she is perceiving him lately..