Oh my goodness. It only makes sense that the spouse with better financial skills handles the finances - that is not a trust issue, unless you can't explain where the money is going(?)!
As for the smoking, I can kind of understand her there. Both H and I were smokers and we tried to quit just before we got pregnant with our DD. I found out when I was about 5-6 months along that he had been smoking and covering it up. I felt concerned that if he could hide smoking as well as he did, could he be capable of cheating on me just as well? I felt deceived and hurt by it.
