So Lucy and I parted company on Friday. She responded to my email thanking me for making her feel so comfortable with her first match dates, but felt we should each pursue other options. I was expecting it but would have liked it to go the other way since of the three women I have been dating she really felt like the best fit for me.
Today I took Romy to the Nationals baseball game. Had a fun time and she is as affectionate as ever. I'm keeping an open mind about her at this point and not stressing about whether I feel the same as she does. Just let things happen for a few more dates.
Other than that a fairly calm weekend! Too bad it's almost over.
At least Lucy was honest with you. As Lynn and I were disciussing yesterday, I think we all had a few false starts. And Lucy just got out of the gate and is totally out of her comfort zone. I feel really confident saying it really IS her and not you.
Did the dumb Nats at least win? Lately, this is the topic my dad and I really gripe about. I hope you had fun.
I got a text from Mr. Wonderful at 3:30 telling me that his plans for dropping D16 off had changed and asked me to meet him at the Irish pub near my house. I took a quick shower and jumped. We had an appetizer and 2 for 1 house wines and it was good catching up. I forget how funny he is until we do stuff like this. Plus he picked up the bill so all is good. We actually discussed retirement and our final demise, and I must say that we laughed ourselves silly, but I doubt D19 would have found our discussion amusing. Such is life with a special needs kid. At the least, we're on the same page. I even told him that I think I'll be retiring to Wilmington, NC, when I retire. It was a good time. I took D16 home, and he went off to meet friends at a new restaurant near my house that seems to be the local answer to Hooters. LOL.
Lynn, I'll be there at 5. Cherry Creek isn't horribly far from my office, and I usually take off around 4:30. You have my cell if you run into trouble...
TTYL!
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
Thanks Betsey - you are right. I pretty much knew the likelihood of a relationship with Lucy was slim to none but it was nice getting to meet her and go out a few times anyway.
The "dumb" Nats did actually win - 14 to 1! It was a great game, from a Nats fan persepective at least! They have won 3 in a row now. Just enough to start giving us a sliver of a hope.
I say "dumb" because: 1) they are as big underperformers as my team this year, and it frustrates the crap out of my Dad and me; and 2) I root for Washington teams unless they're playing mine. We didn't have a baseball team there when I was growing up, so I grew up in a house filled with Orioles fans... (meaning that the Nats have never been "my" team, but I do root for them).
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I'm keeping an open mind about her at this point and not stressing about whether I feel the same as she does. Just let things happen for a few more dates.
BA, I highly recommend going this route. It's been 2 months since I started seeing Sweet Stuff, and I find myself closer and closer to falling off the cliff for him. We had an incredibly intimate conversation on the phone very late last night, and when I hung up, I realized that my heart was doing butterflies. I'm pretty sure I know what that means. But I promised him that I wouldn't say the words until I was 100% sure I meant them.
Several months isn't terribly unconventional or unreasonable to see if those feelings do develop.
FYI, he told me that he figured out awhile I ago that I think like a man. I know what he means, because it's come up in counseling for me before - as a less than desirable trait for my XH and other SO's that have been emotionally involved with me. The good thing is that he told me it doesn't scare him, and he asked for permission to help me try to tear down my walls, and also said he's very attracted to that more male side of me. I have to tell you, it's a first for me. I did tell him that I will work on this as we go. And I'm really glad that he's not seeing this as an obstacle. I guess it's a good thing that he's pretty emotionally transparent - he possesses the "feminine" traits that I appreciate. My XH had that side as well, and I don't think I worked hard enough to be more centric in how I express my emotions. It's been a battle for me my whole life.
So tonight, he just might find out that I say those 3 little words I know he'd love to hear. It also might put the kibosh on the movie plans we've made. I'm really excited about seeing him, as it's been 2 weeks. (Our schedules have been at odds this whole duration - me with D16's medical stuff, and him with work and his S17.) At the very least, I *did* find out that absence made my heart grow fonder. That's usually the litmus test for me that's golden!
Anyhoo, just another peanut from the gallery encouraging you.
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
Wow Betsey - very happy for you and glad that things are working out so well for you and SS. I fell in love with my last girlfriend at about the 4 month mark - but as soon as I communicated that to her, she ran for the hills! It sounds like that won't be the case of you and SS as I'm sure he will be excited to know how you feel about him.
No offense taken on the "dumb" Nats - I share your Dad's frustration with them this year. It has been a real struggle based on all of the expectations for this team.
It has been a real struggle based on all of the expectations for this team.
The older I get, the more I loathe expectations - large or small.
When the Nats bowed out of the playoffs last season, you should have seen the uproar my brother and I caused. My younger bro and I have fought about baseball as long as I can remember. It's our thing. But in this case, we were both taking on the Natitude world, which included... well... all our relatives. My parents stayed silent through it.
Everyone said (on FB as off), "Oh well, we'll get it next year." Having experience on this front, I said, "You guys don't get it. Do you know HOW HARD it is to get back to the playoffs? It's virtually set up so that you fail unless you're one of the perennial faves." Everyone jumped down my throat and my bro came to the rescue. They jumped all over him. He returned with, "Even IF you have the same team and the same coaching, you have injuries. You have weather. You have mental issues that come into play. And Betsey is right."
So here we are, 9 months later. My relatives are all disgusted. I reminded them that Clippard STILL blows leads and games. Clippard is the bane of my dad's existence. He literally groans and hopes for the best.
As my dad and I both agree, "we both have teams that look like they try to blow it when it matters". It's aggravating. I won't even go into the 8th inning debacle at Coors Field yesterday. It had a happy ending, but not for lack of trying to throw the game away. Ugh.
Okay, so I love baseball almost more than anything else in the world. I love hockey almost as much, but not quite as much as baseball. Which is my segue to Sweet Stuff...
Thanks for your well wishes! In our conversation last night, he told me very quietly that he was in love with me all the way and that he would wait for me. After I wiggled around in a little discomfort, he told me, "I'd be in love with you without you being a sports freak. But I swear to God that your massive love for baseball makes me absolutely HOT. The pitcher in me wishes I met you first--before I met all the other girls and my XW."
I'm pretty sure that's where I knew I was a goner. NOBODY--and I mean NOBODY--has ever fallen in love with me because of my love for sports. I always knew one day, someone would appreciate it. But until it happened, I always wondered if it was always going to be the reason my love interests wound up with stupid, misanthropic shopping Barbie bimbos (sorry Barb-definitely not personal since my sister's name is also Barb and she's not of this ilk) instead of me.
So take that, plastic doll types. I finally got the guy.
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as I'm sure he will be excited to know how you feel about him.
Yes, he will, BA. In fact, my guess is that if I tell him this tonight, it's a guaranteed date out in public cancel. I'd bet my mortgage and yours too! I just have to figure out if the movie is what he really wants to do. If I sense that he's invested in going, I'll hold off until I see him again - alone - which will probably be the night D19 leaves for school (it's my usual night without D16, who I have this weekend).
Will let ya know.
Carry on! And hugs to you, BA. I don't think you'll get another skittish person again. Maybe you should take a page out of Sweet Stuff's manual and follow up with being able to wait? It was definitely endearing to me. FWIW.
Betsey
p.s. Just when I was about to hit Submit, I got a text from SS. He's feeling sick. So all of this might have to wait. Darn.
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
You are right Betsey - it is much harder to repeat success in this league than it is to have it the first time. All the stars line up only occasionally. I'm a lifelong Tiger fan having grown up most of my childhood in Michigan and the Tigers have had seasons of greatness followed by dismal ballplaying. Still hoping the Nats pull themselves up and have a strong August and September run for the penant. Big series coming up with Atlanta next week.
It sounds like things are pretty solid for you and SS. Happy for you!!
Kat--There are even KU basketball fans HERE... you can't find an even more avid fan where you live? Maybe that's the point you need to sell first.
BA--I like the Tigers just fine. Jim Leyland is a personal fave of mine-such a lovable curmudgeon!
Sweet Stuff texted me when I was ready to leave work yesterday and opted out of the movie, but told me I was welcome to come by. We're rescheduling movie date to Saturday, and we'll bring D16 with us and choose a movie she'll like. Probably Turbo. He wants to go to church with us. So that's nice.
I did wind up telling him how I felt, and it was well received. He was VERY happy. So. Now we build on this. I told him about this place and about you folks and the input we have for each other. He literally laughed when I told him that I call him Sweet Stuff here. And to say he was surprised I disclosed our first "date" was an understatement. I told him, well, these are the folks who help me navigate these situations and if I left that out, I couldn't get the help I need if things blew up. He seemed satisfied with that.
This time I was over, I paid attention to the photos he has out. His kids--all 7 of them--are really adorable. It makes me so sad for him that his kids have to sneak around to see him. The older ones have heard their mom say that nothing short of ruining his life will do for her, so they are very protective of him and what they do and say about their dad. What a bummer for everyone. That's his big baggage, and mine is the fact that D16 will always be my sidekick. I'm really grateful that he's completely enamored with her. Pretty much everyone is, so that's not a surprise for me.
So that's it from my neck of the woods.
On another happy note, my landscaper finished my front yard yesterday. We've got more work to do, but he's laid the template and I'm SO happy. It actually has curb appeal now and looks adorable. I just might have to stay there longer than I anticipated.
Hope everyone has a fabulous day.
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
They have won 3 in a row now. Just enough to start giving us a sliver of a hope. 
I'm really excited about seeing him, as it's been 2 weeks. (Our schedules have been at odds this whole duration - me with D16's medical stuff, and him with work and his S17.) At the very least, I *did* find out that absence made my heart grow fonder. That's usually the litmus test for me that's golden!
It sounds like that won't be the case of you and SS as I'm sure he will be excited to know how you feel about him. 