First of all, wow! I'm so proud of you for finally doing it! You may be bummed for a while, but you had to do this. She needs to understand that she's the only woman you want to ML to. You love her so much that you want to improve your marriage; it's not *just* about sex.
Quote: Said she has trust issues with me (I'll go into this later, but I tend to think they are all red herrings). What are these "red herring" trust issues? Maybe they're enormous to her. They must be if this is how she reacts to you giving her a book.
She does not want to confront her own reasons for why our sexual relationship is nil, so she blames it all on me, and other external stressors. Things can only get better now. I have to admit, I'm shocked by her reaction. She's treating you like her son, not her husband. I think a wise dber will have to chime in here. The ball is in her court, it's time for you to 'go dark' or something like that...
Be strong! You've done really well! Now keep your eyes open to those first signs that things are moving in the right direction! Keep us posted.
