Rock many oif us have been here for a while wanting to save our families from the destruction of divorce. It is very confusing times. We admit our flaws we try and change yet our WAS continue with their plans. It hurts it scares us it destroys us from within. Your future plans with your spouse of growing old together sitting on a park bench and feeding pigeons are squashed. I know been there. I'm still wondering what happened, how it changed. Many in here want to help. Some just don't know how to express it. Including me. I have gotten angry said stupid stuff in an attempt to help. Maybe I wasn't ready to help not sure if am right now. Take what everyone says with a grain of salt but listen. Mr Bond has a way to piss you off but he means well. I have had tit for tats with him (of course I was right and he wasn't :))
What I'm saying is that we understand your anger desperation and fears and the whole array of stuff you are going through. I'm not defending anyone. Everyone is responsible for their statements.
Just know that this period in your life is a hit bottom period. Not sure why it happens to 50% of married couples but it does. And that things will get better in time. My buddy Mach told me to be dignified through this. Easy for a WASP to say. I'm a hard headed Scilian.
Hang though my friend
Ps: I'm known for not making sense
M 53 D 20 Separated 6/22/11 moved out 10/24 Together 26 yrs Married 16 W Filed for D 7/21/11 Served 9/6/11 D final 8/28/12
“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”
