Thanks, MPT. I appreciate everything you said, and I actually have little doubt that she perceived it in the negative way you indicated. However, even if I had said it in this way:
Quote: “I AM happy with you; therefore, I want to have lots of sex with you. I want to express my love for you and my happiness with you. I feel like all this love I have for you gets bottled up inside and I ache to express it. ML with you is what lets it all out for me.”
...she would have found a way to perceive it negatively. She would say something like, "but ML is not something that is important to me, or that makes ME feel loved, so you'll have to come up with some other way, like vacuuming the living room. Aren't MY needs important? Why is always about YOU?"
As a Buddhist, she says that the root of my suffering is my attachment to sex. That I should give up that attachment, and then my suffering will end. That's really easy to say for an LD person. Well, I'm not LD or Buddhist. I'm HD and I want to ML to my W, who I love in so many other ways but this one.
