I would, however, talk to your husband about counseling. I know he is uncertain about the future of your M but he can't have it both ways.

He can't say he wants more physical affection and then be a cold fish when you give it to him; he's setting you up to fail. You need positive reinforcement if he wants your changes to stick.

Me: 44, Wife: 39
M: 17 years T: 20 years
Bomb on 08/25/09
1/13/10: MC started
1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs
8/28/10: Wife moved out
No talk of D, no movement

"Every day is another chance to get it right."