Need Help!!! WAW stated she wants a D

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BKS, I am so sorry to hear this. I am not a vet DB-er but if she said she has retained a lawyer I don't think you can afford to do the "believe none of what she says" thing. Because next thing you know she will "show" you by serving you and you will be completely blindisded.

There is NOTHING wrong with knowing your legal rights -- even if she hadn't said that to you and you were still DB-ing 1000%. (Knowledge is power). Also you can still DB 1000% until the divorce is finalized (many jurisdicitons have a waiting period for finalization of Ds). I read DB and Michele says you can DB after Ds are announced or even while pending.

Many lawyers offer free initial consultations and many muncipalities offer free legal clinics, if you do not feel quite ready to hire an actual lawyer or if you wish to wait and see if she has. I do agree with PP that you do not have to necessarily tell your W you have sought counsel/retained a lawyer.

Good luck and so sorry again.