I agree w/GM, if your name is on the mortgage, insist that the house be sold or he buy you out. If he wants to refinance, he can apply for the amount necessary to buy you out and have the refinanced home in his name only. The two of you can divide everything else equally and walk away.
I also agree w/GM, you actually have more control over the situation than he thinks and just remember...you are the sane one who is thinking straight right now. Put that business hat on and start doing the math because I would certainly force his hand to sell that house or get moving on the refinancing.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
