I shortened my attitude down to IamDm. The reason I had that attitude was because H still calls me mama and I resent it!
But you know if he does, it will just be temporary. If my H chooses the Tramp over me, it will not be temporary because I will be done at that point. Is that how you feel?
Oh, heck yea, I would be done! YEs, I can say there is a small spot of L for him that he earned after all these yrs together and as the F of my kids, but believe me it is tucked away, and protected.
Not taking it personal is my biggest hurdle as well. I was so willing to take the blame and be the victim. He never gave it to me tho, he thought I was crazy asking what's did I do wrong.
Good to hear from you, I will look for your request.
The past can't be ahead of you in the future. You don't have to figure it all out, just pick a direction. What's next...I don't know but I can't wait!