Yup, been there for 20+ months. I have been absolutely desperate at times and couldn't see my way out of it. I thought I would break under the pressure of the D, my mom's cancer, raising the boys on my own and keeping up with the demands of my job. Things turned around for me emotionally when in my mind I detached from my life as I know it and came up with a plan that is actually better for me long term. That snapped xh into reality. He doesn't have the power that he thought he had. Keep focused on what you need to land on your feet. Forget fair or what your h and OW are cooking up. Honestly, it just doesn't matter. Only the well being of you and your kids does. Keep it simple, WH. You will see your way through this.
