Quote: figure out why I pick assertive, intelligent, controlling women as mates; why I wimp out on discussing things that are important to me; why I put other's needs before mine (most of the time); and why I seem most comfortable with this power/control imbalance.
It probably feels most comfortable because you have less "responsibility". You're just along for the ride... following your wife's lead. Marriage is a partnership - it's *not* all about her. I think you pick assertive, intelligent women who *appear* to become controlling - you surrender your power to them and then wonder why you're so unhappy. Maybe your wife wants her man to be more take charge? I remember so often wishing my H would just for once make the decision about something, so that we weren't always doing what I want. Come on! Flex your masculinity!
Oh, of course! I like Lina's approach... very subtle! How about you start reading the book again this evening, and see if she says anything She HAS to say something if she sees you reading the book! No? Just tell her you saw a raving review on it and want to see what YOU can do to have a more loving relationship with HER... all very subtle and nonthreatening. I'd almost guarantee she'll read it!
Good luck... you know we're all rooting for ya! haha NOPkins has a good point! It is quite obvious she loves you.
She HAS to say something if she sees you reading the book! No? Just tell her you saw a raving review on it and want to see what YOU can do to have a more loving relationship with HER... all very subtle and nonthreatening. I'd almost guarantee she'll read it! 
