Oh SLU....sigh... I'll try...lmao!!

-4 years H lives in town, see him on weekends, maybe once a week, during week.

-I am the mom, make the decisions etc. really don't let h make any and even if he disagrees he let's me have my way

- low desire marriage, my part, H is overweight, I am insecure about me...

-fall 2013 I snoop on phone find a list of to do which includes no more wife

-He says he is done doesn't love, hasn't for a long time. I say then he has to leave (I mean, don't come back for weekends)

-Ask if we can work on the marriage, he says no. So, we tell kids 2 weeks later

-Find out he is seeing someone in November. Started seeing her almost right after we split. I know her and he was running with her three or four weeks before our split

- H lies initially and says there is no one. I catch him out and he admits.
-big chat in January, 14 hours, alcohol involved...makeout session included :P
-continue to communicate, discuss our marriage etc. still has GF
- GF goes away for a month, H is chatting, we go on a couple road trips, nothing physical.
-GF comes back, breaks up with H because he is in contact with me .
_H and I hang out a bit (we are an hour away), he is still frantically in love with GF, but won't give up our relationship.
-H comments that when he left he expected to be happy, but wasn't, and i was.
-H still hanging with GF, sleeping with her.
-GF gives H ultimatum, her or me. H says me.
-H goes to therapist who says, jag in the XGF, nine months isn't long enough, work on building friendship or whatever with XW
- H connects with old college mate. He goes to her cottage every second weekend. He says they are "taking it slow". He admits they are in different places in their lives (she has small kids)
- I have been out on a date (fail) but am pretty content to just be.
-email today was friendly but not as friendly (me to him).


There you go, all I got lol!! H and I are separated, but have been physical a few times. He says I am his best friend and has mentioned to the person he is now dating that we are very good friends and I am in his life.