HI AS, Thanks for the advice. You probably dont recall but my W is living 900miles away so the only avenue I have to show GAL and PMV is thru email so far. No contact via phone or in person. Nor do we have children together. I'm slowly getting used to this sitch but the bottem line is this [censored] as Im sure you will agree. 3 months this week so I also realize this could go on a long, long time. Unless of course she files for D come this October which is when she becomes eligible to do so.