Cac4, your post really helps. My W has been very overwhelmed, too. We had a commuter marriage, adopted a child, and tried to keep the commuter marriage for a while. She felt like a single mom, decided to quit a job she loved, moved from a house she loved to my town, which she did not love, started a new business, with all the stress of that, has to deal with my three kids from my first marriage much more often than she used, has to deal with my bitchy ex-W, and generally is just always stressed.
But you're right. Stress is part of life. It's not going to go away, and adding to it by asking her to read the book is not going to be some straw that broke the camel's back.
