wh, Have you given any thought to having him "buy" you out of the house? When my xh went crazy, we still owed on our home and yes, we even had a second mortgage on the place. Didn't matter, I either had to agree to sell the place and divide up the interest in the home or buy him out. By the time we were divorced, I had paid the second mortgage off and my xh wasn't aware of this. But, bottom line, he was in such a hurry to get his "share", that he only wanted what he thought our county would be taxing us for the real estate taxes which ended up being just a third of what he would have gotten had he agreed to the splitting of everything by 50%. He lost a lot of money going that way, but I kept my house and my mortgage is a very small one compared to many in the area.
You might want to check out the house mortgage info and see if it is in your best interest to just walk away. I think it would be something well worth looking into because I think you are entitled to have the interest, no matter what, and especially, if he's going to refinance the place.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
