White rose I agree with you I'm so glad that my father has been there for me since day one. The only thing is I know my father means well and how wants me to just file and move on from H. Cause I deserve so much better then H. I understand what he is saying but im not there yet to give up on my marriage. Maybe now I'll be able to start living again and see where I will end up in a day, month or a year from now. Now I can work on myself one day at a time and i have my boys with me to help me out.
I'm in the same place with my father. I know he means well and wants what he thinks is best, but I'm also not there yet. I still get the questions about what is happening and is he paying and is the OW still there, etc, etc. Sometimes it's like I'm a teenager again and he's checking up on the boyfriend to make sure he's treating me right. You have to trust that your family will support you with whatever your decision is regardless of what they think of your sitch.
You're right - now you work on yourself and making a life for you and your boys. If your H one day decides he wants to come back into your life, you will be in a better place to make the decision for yourself as to whether you want or need him there.
Good luck and stay strong.
Both 50 S14 M 16 yrs (his 3rd; my 1st)
ILYBINILWY - 24 Dec 2012 H moved out - 27 Jun 2013 Legally separated - 6 Sep 2013 Closing the door and changing the locks
