Thank you so much, snodderly. I am trying really hard to stay patient and not let fear take over. I am standing my ground, but know that it could blow the current settlement to bits. I have total faith in my attorney though. She has been very good at giving me a reality check and also seems to work well with opposing counsel. So far xh seems to want to just get this done even if it means he needs to re-think some issues. I'm staying clear of him. Too many bugs in his ear could send him running. He already has his attorney and OW advising him.
My best friend called last night, the one the boys and I will be visiting on Thursday. She told me that she, her h, sister and friends are all ready to help me and the boys find temporary housing if it turns out that we decide to move quickly. She said that between them they have plenty of furniture, etc. to make a home for us and will get us set up in no time. Thank God for loving, supportive friends, even those I've never met.
I will be meeting with a realtor and also feeling out the job market during my trip. I'm still pursuing Plan B until the ink is dry on Plan A.
That's good news GM, glad you have those friends, and maybe some of your fear will reduce down now. Keep on keeping on.
I'm sure the trip will have a little anxiety about the future, but knowing you have support and some options are the best thing that could be happening right now. Don't be afraid to explore and keep an open mind. Hope the break will also be comforting enough that you can recharge the batteries a bit.
Good luck, enjoy your trip and your friends, relax.
I just found out that my attorney is too sick to deal with my case today. Ugh! More time in limbo. Xh owes me a large amount of money and I won't get it until this is settled. I just want this done before I leave on Thursday.
I'm crying this morning and feeling frantic. Xh keeps playing around with the settlement. I leave in two days and nothing is resolved. He continues to hold on to money that he owes which jeopardizes my financial situation. He knows this and dangles it like a carrot. I'm feeling abused and hopeless. I just want to get on that plane Thursday and not come back.
I wish I could give you a huge hug and tell you everything will be okay. Funny how we are so much stronger for others than we are for ourselves?
Did you leave a message for your attorney? Maybe your attorney will get a hold of you today. Does your X know you are leaving Thursday? Is that the game he is playing?
You and I will hang on together. There is strength in numbers.
WH
AT BD: WH 41, J 43; Bomb 2/5/2012 Two kids, one dog D Final 6/18/14 J marries OW 1/24/15 "No matter where you go, there you are"
My attorney is trying hard to get this resolved, but is going round and round like the last one did. She's a good negotiator and I have faith in her, but she dealing with a controlling lunatic.
I'm ready to put our things in storage today, drop the cat off at my parents and clear out my bank account. I do not want to return to this next week.
I feel paralyzed. All I want to do is sleep. I need to pack and get things done before I leave, but I can't bring myself to do it. I'm waiting for my attorney to call hoping that she was successful this time, but dreading what she could report. I don't want to be upset anymore. I'm tired of being medicated. I just feel hopeless. I'm the opposite of who I use to be.
Xh has been texting me for days, always starting with "I'm sorry to bother you" or "I don't mean to upset you." I just want to be left alone. I don't trust him. It's amazing to me that my finances and housing is hanging in the balance and he continues to try and get responses out of me. Why is he doing this? He also keeps sending emails to me and both attorneys addressing "All Parties" as if he is one of the attorneys. I feel like I'm going crazy.
GM, He knows exactly what he's done and he's feeling a guilty about it, i.e., like a teenager who has promised to mow the lawn and didn't. He wants to be in your good graces because he needs something from you.
If you don't want to respond to his emails, then don't. However, if one of them is about the settlement, I would suggest that you respond back to that one and say "h, any questions, comments, etc., about the settlement should be directed to the lawyers and they will hash it out." Nothing more.
I'm very sorry he's still acting out, but hopefully once everything is settled he will not be such a PIA.
Please take care of yourself and enjoy your trip.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
