Had two notable positive interactions this weekend.
1) She made a comment about how she wished we had a bigger place. I didn't really respond when she said that, then she added that once she begins making more money in her career we could get a bigger place (since right now I am paying for all of the rent). I tried not to read into it and just smiled and said that sounds good to me. I made a casual comment about how I'd like an extra bedroom for guests to able to visit and mainly to use as a home office and she said that would be a good idea. This is the first time that she's made those kind of plans, real or not, with me in awhile. When she had talked about making more money before, she rarely mentioned getting a bigger place together. She might have once or twice right after BD#2, but mentally it seems like she's in a different place than she was in then.
2) On a separate occasion, she commented again about getting a bigger place together. Then added, "if not a bigger place, then I'd like to re-decorate the apartment." I asked her what she wanted to do and she had suggestions about the furniture (new entertainment center, dresser, etc).
A month or so ago, we were at Home Depot, and she wanted to get curtains. Then asked if it would be okay to get curtains even though she still intended on moving out. It upset me greatly at the time, so when she made a comment about buying new furniture, I tried to be nonchalant about it this time and tell myself it doesn't necessarily mean anything.
Be very careful here not to attach expectations. WAS are confused.. especially when we start acting differently. The motto is believe none of what they say, have of what they do.
Originally Posted By: specialk
Regardless, I will keep on my DB path and continue to work on myself!
Hang onto this tightly!
M(f): 40 D'ed: 8/12
Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.
