But regarding us I think it's time for her to face the reality of her decision.
That's fine, but if that's your new boundary then you need to sit down with her, explain it to her and tell her why it's a boundary.
I wanted to clarify this a little more- often the LBS thinks they can do something to "punish" the WAS. Like if the WAS is still inviting the LBS along on family outings, then the LBS thinks maybe they should quit going so that the WAS has to "face reality". But it never fails, it's usually the LBS that ends up feeling like they're being punished. Because when the LBS pushes the WAS, the WAS ALWAYS chooses the path that leads away from the M. As a result, the WAS feels more freedom and the LBS feels like they're losing what little grip on the M they have left.
So DO NOT make a decision based on "punishing" the WAS, because it'll almost always backfire. Make the decision based on what is right for YOU.
