I am amazed at the amount of time and energy your h puts into trying to prove that you're interfering, etc. His anger is unsettling. Please talk to your attorney about getting out of there with your kids. I understand that you're on the mortgage and you're protecting your financial interests, but the emotional abuse that you suffer on a daily basis isn't worth it. Forget about your H's imposed deadline to get you out. I understand that it will seem like he's won. But, seriously WH, what will he really have gained? He lost a wonderful wife, time with his kids and is gaining a a real piece of work with an x and kids of her own. What a mess. Let them stew in it. You on the other hand will be on to a more peaceful, authentic existence. The time you do have with your kids will be healthier and more enjoyable without all of the background static.
I'm worried about you, WH. As your h becomes more unglued his behavior toward you may escalate. Talk to your attorney about getting support ASAP so you have money to move. Can your family help you until then? You're not giving in to your h, you're taking control of your life.
He and OW have cooked up quite a complicated plan for accomplishing and maintaining their life together.
