One giant leap forward! - Part 3

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Looking back it makes it more difficult later on than it does easier at the time.

When life is teaching us these lessons we need to pay attention or we keep getting the same lesson over and over and over...

I didn't mention the part about paying.

So then you can't expect her to pay, unless you've both talked about it and come to an agreement. If you can't afford it on your own, what will you do?

Why didn't you mention it?

Later in you reply you say this:

She has agreed to go and pay for MC.

So which is it?

I emailed her the details and said it would cost us £** each. I said if she was willing we could get an appointment on Friday.
She said she didn't have £** right now. I said that the 1st of the month is Thursday, that's when I normally put money in your account. She OK I will take it from that.
I said do you want me to give you £** less for the month and I will just pay for the MC and she said yes.

I do realize that. In the past I have been blind to her manipulations.

That's like saying she cast a spell over you. Here's where the boundaries come in, if you know what they are no one can manipulate you without your consent. This is all on you. Assigning roles and then blame, says you have to power. Is that the way you want to live?

There's a little book, the four agreements, that you might find helpful. You can find it many places, I often see it in thrift and used book stores here. It was a hot item several years ago but what it says is a distillation of personal boundaries and taking responsibility for our own life. It takes about an hour to read.

Good luck, you're thinking.

It is like saying she cast a spell over me.

How would it work though if like in early May, I thought w were having sex because we were coming back together where she was maybe doing it just to see if she still could get me back.

How would a boundary prevent that from happening?



I have found a PDF of The Four Agreements online, I will read it later.

Thanks