We were talking about her illness. She specified what sort of procedure she was likely going to have to have, and I sympathized with her, said I was glad she had a good support group, and said that my mother had the same procedure and that if my W wanted to talk to someone who had been through it, I'm sure she would be willing to do that.
In hindsight, I'm worried that could be interpreted as pressuring. She was pretty close to my mother.
I'm not going to beat myself up too much over it, though. I'm going to learn from it and choose my words even more carefully in the future. NO EXPECTATIONS.
