Well, I wouldn't exactly say things went my way... If they did I would have came home to a spotless house with my W greeting me at the door with a cup of hot coffee and an apple fritter... LOL!
Seriously, from my experience, people in your life will give you advice and tell you what they think you should do. No one walks in another person's shoes and "knows exactly" how it is making you feel. These peripheral people have no vested interest. They have no skin in the game. You can listen to them, validate their opinions, and then forge your own path. The final decision is YOURS, girl!
For me, I came home because I wanted to. I came home to keep the house out of foreclosure. I came home because I knew that it was necessary if I was to any chance of saving my marriage. Well, two out of three seems pretty good to me. I am back where I want to be and the house is safe for the moment.
Yes, being here does feel odd sometimes but I wanted to live here from the word go. Coming back is bittersweet because of the memories and all. However, I am here under my own terms and have no expectations from any one. I have set goals and have plans.
From my perspective, answering your desire for help, a better job is not a bad thing. Moving back to where you wanted to be before is not a bad thing. These are positive steps forward.
Don't let your feelings about your M temper your enthusiasm. You moved to where you are because your H got a job there. Well, he isn't there anymore. You didn't really want to move there in the first place so you are free to go to where you want.
I am not a real firm believer in the new age pschyobabble of "if it feels good just do it". If we all followed that advice, we would all be in a world of hurt. LOL!
“Things turn out best for the people who make the best out of the way things turn out” ― Art Linkletter
