Yet, he is willing to throw everything away for her. His marriage, his family, his home & everything we've built together...all for this life he thinks he wants w OW.
That's the way I used to look at it with my W, that I just couldn't understand why she would "throw away" financial security, a long relationship with a faithful husband, a great home and retirement setup, etc. etc. for a fantasy life that exists only in her head. But the reality of it is that is how much the WAS hates their current life. They are so unhappy and miserable that they willingly give up all the good parts of the M to escape the bad parts. I've read many, many sitches here and the vast majority of the "faults" with the LBS center around simple, easy-to-solve issues. Yet the WAS insists these seemingly minor infractions can never be righted. So the LBS is left asking why? Why can't it be fixed? Why isn't the WAS willing to try? There is no reasonable answer to that question. What you have to understand is to the WAS, the way they feel is 100% real and accurate (to them). They feel so wronged that the only solution is to leave the M. It's not a decision they take lightly and they're constantly arguing with themselves internally over it. But they keep coming back to that as the only solution.
