I have been the queen of snoopers at times when feeling extremely suspicious and upset, but never learned anything that helped me feel better, quite the opposite. I would still snoop to try to figure out my H's plans about something, but not to try to figure out the temperature of the affair between him and the Russian Tramp. It just hurts too damn much, and half of the stuff he writes to her is just a load of crap anyway. So why bother?
Good luck to you my friend. Hang in there! PS I am the same old LindaM, I changed my name to protect my identity -- my H has been known to snoop too.
Linda
Me 65, Ex 64 M 38 y 2 adult S, 4 G-Kids MLC 11/07 BD 12/09 D 3/14 Dating nice guy 7/14 Engaged to nice guy 12/17