For your own sake talk to a lawyer. Work through the financials and possible D but do not involve W. Let her do the work! Lots of WAS has stated this and done nothing further. So do what you need to do for your own piece at mind and leave the rest to W.
All the best! F
Me:44 W:43 D7, D5 (S11 from other R)
T: 8y - not M ILYB: 8. Mar 2013 W moved: 1. Aug 2013 LRT: 20. Aug 2013 _______________________________ Do or do not – there’s no try.
Try to stick to one thread until it's over 100 posts. Put a new link on the previous thread so people who have been following you know you opened a new one.
M37 H36 M8 T12 inc 3yr L-dist 7/12:H broke down 10/12:H dad D frm W4. BD soon after 1/13:H wants to leave 2/13:H gpa passed. Feels closer but H still leaving 3/13: S begins
I agree with the others. Consulting a lawyer or even Citizens Advice should be the least you are doing. If your W is that certain she wants the Big D and isn't interested in reconciliation then you need to be looking at all your options and quickly. The more you know, the more prepared you can be so if the worst does happen, you won't have to deal with any surprises as well as the actual event.
Lots of WAS has stated this and done nothing further.
^^This^^ No need to panic, nearly all WAS's throw this out there at some point. It doesn't mean she's going to pursue it anytime soon, she's probably just getting it out there in words to see how it tastes/ feels/ smells.
If it would make you feel better seeing a lawyer then by all means do it to protect yourself but I would not tell W.
Not read your sitch (had difficulty following it) but sounds like she needs space. Give it her in abundance and focus on you and the kids as much as possible.
No R talk, listen, validate and let her see a strong man who is happy with life regardless of where she is at.
