DB seemingly backfired w/ my H???

[Mimi00]

I decided I am going to file in the beginning of the year, that should be enough for him to decide whether he wants to be a family with me and his son or not.

Maybe I will consider doing the same at the end of the year if he hasn't filed already, that would be the biggest 180 ever for me lol

Good luck and have a good weekend. I hope things will turn around for you! Keep up the good work.

Thanks. The weekend went well. Had fun, saw a few good perspective apartments. The only negative was that I didn't feel the way I was hoping I would. I moved there in 2006 on my own after college, it was my dream city/place to live, I loooooved it there, so many good memories. I gave up living there and moved 45 mintues away for H b/c he got a job outside the city so we moved. I was hoping I'd be in love with the city like I was back in 2006, but instead I felt "done" with it. I guess when I gave it up for a life with him, I gave it up for good.

I don't feel like that is where I should be anymore.

But I don't feel like where I am is where I should be either.

So unfortunately I am feeling very "lost" right now.

I will still probably take the job and leave in two weeks just to make/save money and get own my two feet. But I think by new years I will have to decide where I want to be long term.

Yesterday I took pics at a few places I went while there and posted them online. Surprise! I got a text from H:

H: "Did you move already?"

Me: "Hi, how are you? No I didn't just visiting."

H: "I'm fine, how's the city?"

Me: Fine. Went to some apartments, not making any commitments, just looking and seeing how I feel.

He didn't respond again.

I haven't said anything else either.

Now that I am back home I was thinking of sending him an email letting him know how the visit went and the specifics with taking his offer to help financially.

If he putting his paycheck into the joint account then you might consider depositing a portion of your check as well.

I agree with MrCAS about at least having a portion of your check deposit into your joint checking, since his check is and also since you mentioned that the separate account has been an issue of your H's in the past.

Thanks MrCAS & Chl for your opinions; it's nice to have them.
Good to know my ideas aren't crazy sometimes lol