URworthy gave you great advice. Completely agree. I think when he says he wants to feel needed is that he wants to feel like he's making a contribution. So if you asked for help or his opinion, that would count. I always avoided asking Joe for help bc I didn't want to bother him, and he also said that he never felt needed and he wanted to feel needed. He said that was one of the reasons he had an A. Since your H and Joe seem to be related, this might help a bit!
