One giant leap forward! - Part 3

[T1000]

W text me today:

1:26PM, 28 Jul - Wife: How are the babies?
1:39PM, 28 Jul - T1000: Other than S3's 'Adventures in Constipation' they're great!
1:40PM, 28 Jul - Wife: I'm horny
1:40PM, 28 Jul - Wife: You horny?
1:41PM, 28 Jul - Wife: Lol
1:41PM, 28 Jul - T1000: That's very....honest of you. :-)
1:42PM, 28 Jul - Wife: I'm lay in bed....dying for sex
1:42PM, 28 Jul - Wife: ;-)

(Sexual banter)

1:44PM, 28 Jul - Wife: When we gong to have sex?
1:44PM, 28 Jul - Wife: Going
1:45PM, 28 Jul - T1000: When we have started to work on our R.
1:45PM, 28 Jul - Wife: How can we work on it if we never spend time together?
1:46PM, 28 Jul - T1000: You asking me out?
1:46PM, 28 Jul - Wife: Maybe...
1:46PM, 28 Jul - T1000: Im not some cheap date you know.
1:47PM, 28 Jul - T1000: Well I am a bit.
1:47PM, 28 Jul - Wife: Would you like to stay here for a little bit after the kids have gone to bed.
1:47PM, 28 Jul - Wife: I'll order some food.
1:48PM, 28 Jul - Wife: Can't say that I might not try it on with you though....ha
1:48PM, 28 Jul - T1000: Lol
1:49PM, 28 Jul - T1000: That would be nice. We can have dinner together. Thats all it will be for now though.

(Sexual banter)

1:51PM, 28 Jul - Wife: Ha
1:51PM, 28 Jul - Wife: Ok. Dinner is fine.
1:52PM, 28 Jul - Wife: See you later. X
1:52PM, 28 Jul - T1000: Cool
1:52PM, 28 Jul - T1000: See you later. X :-)


Got to W's house. Played with kids. I put S3 to bed and then read S1 a story while W made dinner.
We had dinner and chatted. Started off about the kids and then about general stuff.
W went to get a drink and came back and mentioned about what should happen if the house sells. It came out of nowhere.
Felt like she was marking her ground. Her stance is different to what it was a few weeks ago. Full agreement to pay off all debts (all in my name) and then split the money. That is what would happen anyway.

Did a bit more general chatting and then I asked if she got my email form Friday. She said she hadn't. She looked at her email then. We looked at the MC together online and she agreed to go to a session on Friday and pay half.
I think we will only be able to go once a month but it's better than nothing.

She finds it a bit weird going to see a MC. She's worried we will come out of it really angry and then I will leave with the kids and we won't talk.
I said that we should treat the MC as a separate thing. We go, we work on the marriage and we leave any resentment there if possible. We have the weekend apart to think about the session then we can discuss things on the Sunday.
She's worried it's going to be hard. I said I think it will be hard, if putting a marriage back together successfully was easy more people would be doing it.

We talked about Retrouvaille, she is totally up for it just need to find childcare. I'm going contact them this week like Fartiltre said and see if they have any suggestions.

We chatted about general things again. She asked me if I wanted to have sex. I said that I do but we won't be doing it now.
She asked me if I wanted to stay over and I said no thanks.

She asked me when we might have sex and why i'm am being the way I am.
I said I promised myself I wouldn't rush anything so I'm not doing. I started to say more but she cut me off and said it's fine, you have your reasons.

I said goodnight to S and read him a story and left.

Text after i left:
8:43PM, 28 Jul - Wife: Really wanted to talk to you a bit more tonight
8:49PM, 28 Jul - T1000: Me too. Just getting a bit late.
8:49PM, 28 Jul - T1000: Thanks for dinner :-)
8:50PM, 28 Jul - Wife: You are welcome.
8:50PM, 28 Jul - Wife: You can treat me next time

(Sexual banter, I started it but probably shouldn't have done considering I turned her down many times.)

9:46PM, 28 Jul - Wife: Well I know how shy you are these days so now I've been knocked back I won't ask again. I'll wait til you feel ready.
9:47PM, 28 Jul - T1000: Fair enough.


No doubt there will be something that I remember later that was said tonight but thats it for now.


When should I start to show her some affection? When should we try a date?

I know it's not a rush and I'm not planning to do anymore that what we have done tonight until we have started seeing MC. I could easily hold back being affectionate or loving towards her too long because of my stance.