Questions without answers...am I stuck in place?

[albamarie]

~Hi Linda,
No, he wasn’t saying that in the car, he had already returned to work. It’s empty threats, he knows that step would be enough to make me say forget moving out, they are not PA and if he takes it that far to be moved out it only tells me how much he continues to need a mommy to take care of him.

she's as crazy as him! Yes, and why should I be privy to any more of his craziness, go do that w her, I don’t want to know about it! Drive her crazy 24/7 and she how much of a R you really have, open your eyes, and then look south to what you left behind!

I hope your H gets driven crazy by RT just enough to make it home and land on your front porch exhausted and reaching for you!

Your so sweet Linda, I am glad we made a connection.

~Sweetbabyred
Hi, thanks for the book suggestion, I will look into it.

say that he'd be better if only you didn't kick him out and just let him continue doing what he's doing.

Funny, is this a script, he already said that and topped it off with a pile of $$$ and told me to go have fun.

Rock bottom is what everyone agrees with but I wonder is kicking him out forcing rock bottom or at the point for my own good, does it no longer matter? He can’t hit rock bottom here, I won’t let him, not on purpose but I am not going to let anything touch my family.

~uRworthy - It is true, a lot can happen between now and Sept. And I so get what you are saying about the two Dawns. I do not want you to feel you are pushing him into ea's arms. He is an adult and he is making a decision.

I am fully prepared to loose him all together, it will hurt the most that he chose a POS over us only because I will never understand the allure to become a looser. But, I won’t take it personally, I know it’s not about me.

The easiest part about this, that makes me a little different from others here, is that I am not in love w him anymore. I can be hurt by him, but that hurt comes from my brain that says why don’t you put all this effort into fixing our life and getting me back to a place of loving and wanting you.

But they both have serious issues, Dawn. And it needs to play itself out. If I don’t get away from the knowledge of their EA I will not be able to move forward. Just logging onto my back account gives me anxiety seeing where he bought gas. I don’t want to know or care.

Thanks for the kind words, every post is so helpful and in every post there is at least one line that I walk away with thinking about and learning from. He is on a very busy schedule for the next 8 days so his reality will kick in after that and he will act out!

I’ll take this week while he’s working and avoiding reality to prepare myself and get the house in order. I am staying away from him and doing my own things. There is another BD on it's way!

I can no longer say I don’t have friends

Thanks again, Nero for being you! I will go to your thread!