As for standing, H has expressed the need for me to find out what is out there, because in his head, how can I be sure I want him? Also, I am sure it gives him a little freedom from the guilt he has about dating.
I think that ^^^^ is so true.
For me, I think, I have to have that connection first, not just the curiosity.
I hear you on that. I feel the same.
I have come to realize that while I want H and love H, I don't need H. He has expressed that in our marriage, there were only a handful of times he felt I needed him. That is true. I don't know how to let H feel he is needed, because I am not sure what it looks like.
I think it is part of a healthy relationship, to want and not need. I dont think it is something lacking in you. I do think it might be something lacking in him, this need to feel needed. We, all of us, as adults, should want to be independent and see someone else as adding to our lives, not fulfilling it. Happiness should come from within and if we find someone to share our lives, then they can only enhance it.
As for dating....I don't think I want that right now. However, I won't put off GET AWAY vibes...;p
Sounds like a healthy attitude to me. I think when you are ready, you will have no doubts.
