I agree w/the other posters. Until you can get your "expectations" under control, I wouldn't contact him. You must keep your expectations at zero at all times in order to have interacts w/him. If you don't, you will become depressed, angry, hurt, etc. because you are "expecting" him to act a certain way, i.e., as he may have done pre-crisis.
Step back and trust me, if and when he's ready to communicate, he will contact you. Until then, live your life as if he may never return.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
