It helps Cadet, there is so much I dont understand coming from her. I mean she is not the person I have known and I can tell this even by what little contact we have. By detaching, are you saying to not respond in a (friendly )manner when she asks for something? info or whatever. I have not been initiating contact for almost 3 weeks now and only responding to her contacts (still very limited by her). But i do it nicely and try to help. Am I to be more stern for lack of a better word towards her? Right now its back to no contact from her for several days so if/when something comes up maybe I shouldn't be so nice anymore? just respond directly? I am finding though that detaching keeps me in a better mental state as when I do see an email from her I almost cringe as to oh no now what.
