K, I feel for you I really do frown So pleased that you're going to try another Church, you will get a lot of comfort through that smile Try not to get in touch with H, let him initiate the contacts from now on. Just send him a text asking him what you need as regards to the boys.
I don't know my H's new address and I've not asked him for it. I am not bothered where he is living, he's not at home so why should I! Just put on the school registration form - address unknown and don't ask him for his address again.
From now on it's all about you. Don't be scared, you'll be fine smile I've been married 21 years and I've suddenly found myself on my own. You will cope, God only gives us as much as we can cope with and trust in the Lord that he knows best for you smile
Try and keep your mind occupied with doing other things instead of worrying. Get a board game out and play with your sons, watch a DVD together with some popcorn or sweets as if you were in the cinema, play video games with them etc. Start helping your H move his stuff out, get a cardboard box and pack his stuff up for him. Now what can you do with that empty space where his stuff used to be? When he's moved out, re-arrange the furniture, have a good spring clean and a tidy up. De-clutter and have a yard sale or a boot sale.
If he doesn't pay up with what he said he would, contact your lawyer and get the money off him that way.
I hope I've helped smile Stay on here, this will help you talk about things and others will be able to give you suggestions as well smile
Have a great day smile

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T22 M21
S20 - Got high functioning autism
3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her
11/2000 H moves back home
2/4/13 H moves out
H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!