Thanks etc. Sorry that you're here as well - I'm also ten years in and was happy doing all the "stuff". I know what you mean about being treated like you don't exist.
I am still plugging away at my 180's and GAL work. Diet is going great, running every other night, down about 15 pounds in 4 weeks or so (I'm not overweight, but like everyone, could afford to lose 25 pounds). House and yard are meticulous (I was a bit of a slob at times in the past). Still doing everything despite having a setback last week.
I am confident that I can find another woman in the future as it's never been a problem before; the real rub is that I want the one I have / had. And after two marriages (if this one fails), I'm not sure I want to expose my heart to any more trauma.
As much as this process is killing me, my main concern at this point is for the kids; I've seen too much of the impact of divorce on kids. But, as unfair as it is (and I hear that voice inside as well), all I can do at this point is carry on, knowing in the end that I did everything I could.
