Husband Threatened to Leave, Don't know what to do

[TrentC]

If he is optimistic that things can be saved then that is a huge thing. It means that he is still invested enough in the relationship to want to make it work.

If he is willing to do it then I would recommend marriage counseling. Lay it all out on the table: you are not as physically affectionate as your husband would like you to be, and you want to be able to meet his needs in order to preserve the marriage, but it's simply not the way you are wired.

Does the physical contact HAVE to be sex? Do you think that simply being willing to hug and kiss, or sit on the couch together when watching a movie, would be enough to lessen the necessity for more intimate contact? Trying to be more physically affectionate is a positive step, but I hope that you can become more comfortable with it; if you are really forcing yourself to do it then he will notice, and doing something you don't like just to please him isn't a realistic long-term strategy.

The next question is, how is he at meeting YOUR needs? If your needs are going unmet then that could affect your willingness to go the extra mile for him.