I agree. It is very hurtful. Even though I told him I'm done and he wants to do some more talking he always has an excuse why he can't.
I told him even with a d we have to communicate.
I know he feels pressure but you know, I feel like I have been standing for so long and I'm ready to move on. If HE isn't sure that is what he wants he better find a time soon to talk. The longer he delays talking about it the more done I am.
I never thought I would feel this way. I guess it's because it has lasted so long. I know what they say about affairs T but this one has lasted 3 years. I think he realizes it won't work, there are too many strikes against it, but he can't figure out how to completely break it off and to recognize the problem really isn't me but he has issues.
I do think your h is moving along. He also never seems to have that mean streak like my h does. Your h still has a lot of work to do but it does seem like he is working. I do know that my h has mentioned the kids. That is one thing we have the OW doesn't have that makes us worth fighting for.
I also think that it seems like once the a is out in the open it is harder for them. My h has told me that ow is not happy with him. Who cares? I think this has put a strain on their "fun" and "understanding" relationship. Other people that know about the a now also hasn't reacted the way he thought. No one is happy with him and he can't understand why because in "his" eyes it was all my fault. Well, he blames himself a teeny weeny bit.
Hope everyone has a great day! It has been cooler here the last week so a great time to do stuff outside.
M 48 H 50 M 25 T 27 D 20,18,15 6/11 H filed 3/12 H dropped 4/12 H moved out
