InIrons, I'm right there with you. I'm going through the exact stuff but I'm a bit further in that W already moved out. I've been completely cut out of all the stuff I had been doing w/her, her family, and my kids for over ten years now. It's like I don't exist in a matter of months. But here's the deal.. Inside of me, I've found this little crying baby (ego?) who keeps yelling "It's not fair! It's not FAIR!" I'm learning (slowly) to put my finger the ego's mouth (figuratively) and say, "Yeah, life's not fair, so what?" to it and then act "AS IF." I'm getting on with my life. I feel like I have courage now to do stuff I've only been talking about for years. I've already hit a few things on my list. How's your list coming along?
I'm learning that DBing is about turning all this horrible stuff that's happening to us into a win-win situation. So, in the end you'll be living a happy, fulfilled life with or without your W. Is it hard? Heck yeah it's hard. Is it worth it? Heck yeah it's worth it. Is it possible? Well, only if you try! Hang in there. You're in good company. We're all struggling right along side you.
ETC
"Whether you worry or not has no affect on the outcome. But, moving forward, letting go, and making changes can." UrWorthy
