Still at Square One!!!

[DFE]

So I was talking to a friend about my sitch today. She knows and loves both of us and has been super supportive. One of very few people who know what's going on. So here is her take on things and I tend to agree with her.

She said H feels very insignificant in our life. He has always lived in my shadow. I am very ambitious and started our business. Everyone looks at me as the owner and he is my husband. He has even been called by my last name on multiple occasions. So in the business world he doesn't feel as accomplished as his wife.

Then there are the kids. He hasn't had to do anything with them since they were born. My mom is very hands on and has been my sidekick for their entire lives. She has helped me with everything mostly to not overwhelm my H. I think that's backfired because again in his home life that made him feel insignificant.

I use the word insignificant because my H has said that to me before. That he feels very insignificant. My friend thought I should have one last talk with him logically and calmly and just tell him that he is so important to me and the kids. And that I am so proud of him for stepping up and taking such good care of them since we have been separated. I don't think that's a good idea as he has rejected me so many times. Every time I tell him he gets furious with me that I want to make him stay.

Seems like a logical way to handle things but a WAS doesn't always think logically!!!!