DB seemingly backfired w/ my H???

[chl0901]

I know I could find someone else, so I don't fear being alone, but it's the fear of will they leave one day too? So what would be the point of even being in another relationship when someone can just walk away and abandon you at any moment they feel like it, and you're supposed to sit there, validate their feelings and accept it.

Mimi, I also fear this. Who's to say that one day down the road if my M doesn't work out that I give my heart to someone else who does the same thing? It's a scary feeling! But I guess there are no guarantees with anything in life really (except death and taxes).

I agree with MrCAS about at least having a portion of your check deposit into your joint checking, since his check is and also since you mentioned that the separate account has been an issue of your H's in the past.